She obviously used the Gothic thing to hide her insecurity. I became and lived most of my adult life as a typical Investment Banker. At first we would go to a Christmas gathering with a small group of friends with children and over the years the same couple that used to host suddenly had over 50 people. The warm conversations were over and most of the couple there only talked about "his income", the size of their respective houses, the number of Audi's and Porsches and my wife and I stopped going. I tried to "wean" my wife off of all the trappings of our life after the death of my mother and she said "no." Over five years of a nuclear divorce ensued - all about money and splitting up all of the crap we had acquired.